The Prideful Youth Pastor

Insights and encouragements from a youth pastor who has fought pride for over 30 years. (This one is tough to write about.)

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Pride. It’s something we all struggle with, but as youth pastors, it can be an especially sneaky trap. We spend our days investing in students, showing up to their games and performances, preaching messages that impact their hearts, and receiving their admiration in return. It’s easy to start believing the hype—that we’re indispensable, that we’re the reason their faith is growing, that we’re doing a pretty incredible job.

I know this struggle all too well. I remember when I was honored with the Tarrant County Young Leader Award, nominated by a sweet lady from our church. It felt good—really good. But beneath that excitement, pride started creeping in. I started feeling like I had “made it” as a leader. I enjoyed the recognition a little too much. Before I knew it, I was living for the praise rather than for the One who called me to serve in the first place.

If you’re a youth pastor wrestling with pride, you’re not alone. But there is hope! Here are three key reminders to keep your heart in check.

1. Stay Away from Self-Glorification

In ministry, it’s easy to take credit for the growth we see in students. When a young person makes a decision for Christ after a powerful message, we can start believing it was our words that made the difference. When students flood into the youth room, we can feel like it’s our leadership drawing them in. But Scripture reminds us:

“So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow.” —1 Corinthians 3:7

At the end of the day, we’re just vessels. God does the work. Our job is obedience, not applause. When pride whispers that we deserve recognition, we must redirect that praise to Jesus—the true source of life change.

2. Seek Humility in Service

Jesus gave us the ultimate example of humility. He didn’t come to earth for recognition, though He deserved it. Instead, He took the form of a servant, washing feet and ministering to the least of these (Philippians 2:5-8).

Humility for us as youth pastors might mean:

• Choosing the backseat instead of always being on stage.
• Letting others take the lead in planning and executing ideas.
• Serving without needing acknowledgment.

One of the best ways to combat pride is to intentionally lower ourselves—finding joy in unseen, uncelebrated acts of service.

3. Give Credit Where Credit Is Due—Publicly and Privately

A prideful heart wants all the recognition. A humble leader freely gives credit away. Whether it’s your volunteer team, student leaders, or fellow staff members, take every opportunity to highlight the work of others.

• Publicly: When someone compliments your ministry, point back to the team effort. Acknowledge the behind-the-scenes heroes.
• Privately: Send notes of encouragement, express gratitude, and remind those around you of their impact. In your quiet time with the Lord, express gratitude for all the Lord is doing in and through you.

One practical habit: Every time you’re tempted to soak up praise, immediately redirect it toward God or someone else who contributed. This not only guards your heart but also fosters a culture of humility within your ministry.

Final Thoughts

The battle against pride is ongoing, but victory is possible when we keep our focus on Jesus. Ministry isn’t about how great we are—it’s about how great He is. Let’s be leaders who serve with humility, give credit freely, and remember that the only recognition that truly matters comes from our Heavenly Father:

“Well done, good and faithful servant.” —Matthew 25:23

Keep serving. Keep loving. Keep pointing to Jesus. And when pride creeps in, surrender it back to the One who called you in the first place.

How do you handle pride in your heart? Comment below.

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