The Heart of a Youth Pastor
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.”
– Matthew 22:37
As youth pastors, we carry the profound privilege and responsibility of pointing teenagers to the love of Jesus. We craft messages, organize events, counsel students, and plan trips, but beneath the surface of it all lies the foundation of our ministry: the state of our hearts before God. In Matthew 22:37, Jesus reminds us of the greatest commandment—to love the Lord with all we are. For youth pastors, this truth isn’t just something we teach; it’s something we live.
Passion Over Programs
We live in a culture that values productivity. In ministry, it’s tempting to equate our effectiveness with packed calendars, dynamic worship sets, or viral social media posts. Don’t get me wrong, we DO need to work with our hands and not neglect our students. But as Jesus told Martha in Luke 10:41-42, only one thing is truly necessary—time at His feet.
Martha was busy serving, but her sister Mary chose to sit and listen to Jesus. Martha’s frustration boiled over, but Jesus lovingly reminded her that Mary had chosen the better path. The lesson for us is clear: before we serve students, we must prioritize sitting in God’s presence. Our passion for our own relationship with Him must come before our passion for ministry. Programs can reach students, but our hearts—overflowing with the love of Christ—transform them.
When Busyness Becomes a Mask
For many youth pastors, it’s easy to mask a lack of spiritual devotion with spiritual busyness. We justify our personal time with God by pointing to the work of our hands—our performance. But that’s just not healthy.
The work of our hands was never meant to sustain us—only the work of His Spirit can do that. Without intentional time in God’s presence, ministry becomes hollow, driven by human effort instead of divine power. It’s dangerous to let busyness take the place of intimacy with God. We need to remember that God doesn’t call us to perform for Him but to abide in Him.
Even Jesus, in the midst of His busy ministry, would often withdraw to lonely places to pray (Luke 5:16). If the Son of God needed time alone with the Father, how much more do we? This rhythm of rest and connection with God must be our priority. Students don’t need a youth pastor who is burning out from performance; they need one whose heart is ablaze with love for Jesus.
Check out “The Busy Youth Pastor” blog for more
Love the Lord First
Deuteronomy 6:5 mirrors Matthew 22:37, calling us to love the Lord with all our heart, soul, and strength. This command is foundational because everything flows from it. We cannot give students what we don’t first possess ourselves.
Are we modeling a passionate pursuit of God in our own lives? Do we hunger for His Word, pour out our hearts in prayer, and worship with abandon? Students are watching. They’re longing for authenticity in a world that often feels fake. They don’t need a perfect youth pastor; they need one who is madly in love with Jesus.
Proverbs 4:23 urges us to guard our hearts, for everything we do flows from them. A heart captivated by Christ produces a ministry marked by His presence.
Leading from the Overflow
John 15:5 reminds us that apart from Jesus, we can do nothing. It’s a humbling truth. The strength to disciple students, endure ministry challenges, and plant seeds of faith doesn’t come from us—it comes from abiding in Him.
Think of a cup being filled with water. As youth pastors, we must let God continually fill us so that we can overflow into the lives of our students. But if we’re empty, we’ll find ourselves scraping the bottom of the cup, trying to pour out what we don’t have.
That’s why prioritizing time with God isn’t selfish; it’s essential. Daily moments in Scripture, prayer, and worship refuel our hearts for the work He’s called us to. When we lead from the overflow of our relationship with Jesus, we’ll find ourselves less reliant on our own strength and more empowered by His Spirit.
A Call to Authenticity
The heart of a youth pastor isn’t about having the coolest sermons or the biggest events; it’s about authenticity. Students don’t need more entertainers or event coordinators—they need shepherds who reflect the heart of Christ. Shepherds who love sacrificially, listen intently, and lead humbly.
Ephesians 5:1-2 challenges us to “be imitators of God…and walk in love, as Christ loved us.” When we love God with all our hearts, we naturally walk in love toward our students. They’ll see a faith that’s not just talked about but lived out, and it will inspire them to seek the same.
Encouragement for the Journey
Youth pastor, you are loved by God—not for what you do but for who you are. He sees your long nights, your tears, and your triumphs. He’s not asking you to be perfect; He’s asking you to love Him wholeheartedly.
Let Matthew 22:37 be your anchor. Love God first, and watch as He shapes your heart for ministry. When your relationship with Him is your priority, your passion for students will flow naturally. And in those moments when you feel weary, remember His promise: “Come to me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).
The heart of a youth pastor isn’t defined by what we do but by who we love. Love Him first, and He will take care of the rest.
How’s your heart? Feeling discouraged spiritually? I’d love to pray with you and encourage you in your journey with the Lord. Schedule a 1 on 1 coaching session and let’s believe together.
The Busy Youth Pastor
There’s never a shortage of things to do in youth ministry. Between planning events, attending games, discipling students, organizing outreach opportunities, and making sure there are enough snacks for small group night, it’s easy to feel like you’re running at full speed with no finish line in sight. Every youth pastor has felt the tension: Am I doing enough?
Here’s the truth, ministry never stops, but that doesn’t mean you have to run yourself into the ground. The pressure you feel to be everywhere, say yes to everything, and meet every need often comes from a place of false expectations. And if no one has told you this lately, let me remind you: You are not called to do it all.
Are You Really That Busy?
How many times has a friend asked, “How’s it going? and your automatic response was, Busy! It’s like a badge of honor we wear, proof that we’re working hard and giving it our all. But are we really that busy, or do we hide behind busy to justify our worth?
Being busy doesn’t equal being effective. It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that the more we do, the more valuable we are in ministry. But your worth is not found in how packed your schedule is – it’s found in Christ. He didn’t call you to be busy; He called you to be faithful.
Stop Carrying More Than You Were Asked To
Jesus never asked you to be at every event or personally disciple every student. He asked you to be obedient. When you try to carry the full weight of ministry, you start operating out of exhaustion rather than calling. And that’s not sustainable.
You don’t have to say yes to every opportunity that comes your way. In fact, learning to say no might be the healthiest decision for both you and your students. When you do less, you can focus on doing what truly matters, building meaningful relationships, teaching God’s Word, and equipping leaders who can disciple others.
Shift From Doing to Delegating
One of the biggest mistakes youth pastors make is believing they have to do everything themselves. But ministry was never meant to be a solo act. You have volunteers, leaders, and even students who are capable and willing to help if you let them. By empowering others, you not only lighten your own load but also create space for others to grow in their faith and leadership.
Take a Breath, You’re Doing Better Than You Think
At the end of the day, you don’t have to prove yourself by how much you do. Your identity is not in the number of events you plan but in Christ, who called you into this ministry in the first place. So take a deep breath. Trust that God is working in your students lives even when you take a day off. And remember you don’t have to do it all to be faithful.
If this describes you, “Too Busy!” I’d love to share with you some of my thoughts on the 5 P’s of ministry calendaring. It might help calm the stress of busy. Schedule a 1 on 1 coaching session and let’s chat.
The Anxious Youth Pastor
Anxiety in Ministry: Overcoming the Fear of Getting It Wrong
Ministry is one of the most fulfilling yet demanding callings a person can pursue. I’ve walked the road you’re on—the late nights, the self-doubt, and the weight of wondering if I’m doing enough or making the right decisions. For youth pastors, one of the biggest challenges is the persistent fear of failure. That fear can feel like a heavy backpack, making every step in ministry more exhausting than it needs to be.
I get it. The fear of getting it wrong can feel paralyzing, keeping you from making decisions, planning events, or having those difficult but necessary conversations with your students. But I want to encourage you: you don’t have to carry this alone. Let’s talk about what anxiety in ministry looks like and how we can choose faith over fear, trusting God to guide us every step of the way.
Understanding the Challenge
I’ve noticed that anxiety in ministry often stems from a deep love for our students and a strong desire to do right by them. That care, while beautiful, can also make the weight of every decision feel overwhelming. I’ve experienced anxiety show up in several ways, maybe you have too:
- Decision-Making Paralysis: Have you ever been so afraid of making the wrong choice that you don’t make any choice at all? I’ve been there.
- Overextension: Sometimes, in trying to prove ourselves, we take on too much. I’ve done it—thinking I could juggle it all and then crashing hard.
- Isolation: Anxiety can make you feel ashamed, like you’re the only one struggling, so you pull away from others. It’s a lonely place to be.
- Diminished Joy: When anxiety takes over, ministry starts feeling like a job rather than the joyful calling it’s meant to be.
This generation is filled with anxiety, and if we’re honest, we often carry it ourselves without even realizing it. We’re so focused on helping our students manage their struggles that we forget to check in with our own hearts. Take a moment now: how are you really doing? Where are fear and anxiety sneaking into your life?
Biblical Foundations for Overcoming Anxiety
When I feel the weight of ministry pressing down, I turn to Scripture. God’s Word is full of reminders that we don’t have to do this alone. Here are a few truths that anchor me:
- God’s Presence: Joshua 1:9 reminds us, “Have I not commanded you: be strong and courageous? Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” That promise means you’re never walking into a meeting, a sermon, or a crisis alone.
- Faith Over Fear: Jesus tells us in Matthew 17:20 that even faith as small as a mustard seed can move mountains. Trusting Him—even just a little—opens the door for His power to work.
- Strength in Weakness: I love Paul’s words in 2 Corinthians 12:9: “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is perfected in weakness.” Our struggles aren’t disqualifiers; they’re opportunities for God to shine.
Practical Strategies for Managing Anxiety in Ministry
Faith doesn’t mean ignoring practical steps. Let me share some strategies that have helped me manage anxiety and keep moving forward:
- Begin with Prayer and Surrender
- Every morning, I start by naming my fears and giving them to God. I ask Him for wisdom and peace, trusting He will provide. Philippians 4:6-7 says it best: “Don’t worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.”
- Cultivate a Supportive Community
- Ministry isn’t meant to be done alone. I’ve learned to lean on mentors, peers, and trusted friends who remind me that I’m not in this by myself. Do you have people like that in your corner? If not, let’s find them together.
- Take Incremental Steps of Faith
- One thing I’ve learned is that overcoming anxiety doesn’t require giant leaps—it starts with small, faithful steps. The parable of the talents (Matthew 25:14-30) shows us that God values our willingness to use what He’s given us, even if it feels small.
- Prioritize Relationships Over Perfection
- I’ve realized that students don’t care if my sermon is perfect or my event goes off without a hitch. What they remember is whether I showed up for them and made them feel seen and loved. Focus on building Christ-centered relationships, and the rest will follow.
- Establish Healthy Rhythms
- I’ve found that chaos fuels anxiety. Setting routines for spiritual growth, rest, and recreation has been a game-changer. Even Jesus took time to withdraw and pray (Luke 5:16), and if He needed it, so do we.
Redefining Failure as Growth
One of the hardest lessons I’ve learned is to see failure not as an end but as a step toward growth. Here’s how I’ve reframed it:
- Learn from Mistakes: Instead of beating myself up, I try to ask, “What can I learn from this?”
- Trust God’s Sovereignty: Romans 8:28 reminds us that God works all things for good. Even when my plans fall apart, His purposes stand firm.
- Celebrate Successes: Taking time to thank God for victories, no matter how small, helps me remember His faithfulness.
A Message of Encouragement
If you’re reading this and feeling the weight of anxiety, I want you to know you’re not alone. I’ve been there, and so have countless others. Your struggles don’t make you a bad pastor—they show how much you care. Ministry is challenging because it matters. The enemy wants to discourage you, but you are equipped and empowered by God.
Psalm 94:19 has been a lifeline for me: “When I am filled with cares, Your comfort brings me joy.” Lean into God’s presence, trust His guidance, and take the next step in faith. You don’t have to be perfect—you just have to be obedient.
Reflection Questions
- What specific aspects of ministry trigger anxiety for you, and how can you surrender these to God?
- Who can you lean on for encouragement and accountability in navigating ministry challenges?
- What small, faith-filled action can you take this week to move past fear?
- How can you incorporate healthier habits to minimize the impact of anxiety on your life and ministry?
- Which biblical truth will you cling to when anxiety begins to take hold?
You don’t have to let anxiety dominate your ministry. By anchoring yourself in faith and relying on God’s guidance, you can overcome fear and experience the joy of serving wholeheartedly. If this is a struggle you’d like to talk about, let’s connect. Schedule a one-on-one coaching session, and we can walk through it together.
BIG ANNOUNCEMENT: I’ve been working on something new for 2025!
Fresh Calling: Inspiring Youth Pastors to Lead with Purpose and Passion
After over 30 years in youth ministry, my heart is full as I share an exciting new chapter: the launch of Fresh Calling (freshcalling.org). This ministry is a culmination of decades of experience, joy, heartache, and countless moments of God’s faithfulness. It’s a way for me to pour into the next generation of youth pastors—to equip, inspire, and encourage those called to lead students in their walk with Christ.
No, I’m not leaving my current assignment here in West Tennessee. No, I’m not jumping out of youth ministry. Fresh Calling is an outpouring of a passion I’ve had for years to raise up the next generation of youth pastors and ministry leaders.
The Vision Behind Fresh Calling
Youth ministry can feel overwhelming and isolating at times. The weight of leading students, supporting families, and navigating your own spiritual life and family life can take its toll. Fresh Calling exists to remind youth pastors of the divine purpose behind their calling and to provide practical tools to help them fulfill it effectively.
This is more than just another resource for youth ministry; it’s a community. It’s a place where youth pastors can find encouragement, guidance, and camaraderie as they pursue God’s mission in their lives and ministries.
The tagline says it all: Equipping Your Calling for Transformative Ministry. Whether you’ve been in ministry for decades or you’re just starting out, Fresh Calling is here to help renew your vision, sharpen your skills, and empower you to make a lasting impact.
Coaching and Consulting
At the heart of Fresh Calling is the desire to walk alongside youth pastors through coaching and consulting. Over the years, I’ve learned that every ministry context is unique, yet the challenges we face often have similar roots. Through one-on-one coaching and team consulting, I’ll help you identify your ministry’s strengths, navigate obstacles, and create strategies for long-term growth and impact.
We’ll explore topics like:
- Prioritizing the spiritual health of the youth pastor.
- Building a healthy and sustainable ministry.
- Engaging students in a post-COVID world. (Especially Mental Health)
- Discipling students in their faith journey.
- Empowering volunteers and equipping leaders.
- and much more!
These sessions aren’t just about solving problems—they’re about discovering new opportunities to lead with purpose, passion, and authenticity.
The Fresh Calling Book
One of the most exciting parts of this journey is the upcoming publication of Fresh Calling in 2025. Yes, I’ve written a book and for many of you who know me well, this is not something I’ve ever thought about doing! (currently looking for publishers) This book will dive deep into the lessons I’ve learned over the years, blending biblical principles, practical advice, and personal stories. My hope is that it will be a source of encouragement and direction for youth pastors everywhere.
The book isn’t just about what’s worked for me—it’s about what God can do through you. It’s a reminder that your calling is sacred, and that even in the challenges, God’s faithfulness never fails.
Why Now?
The calling to launch Fresh Calling has been on my heart for years, but the time has never felt more urgent than it does now. The world our students live in is more complex and challenging than ever before. The rise of anxiety, social media’s grip on their identity, and the ever-shifting cultural landscape make it clear: our youth pastors need support like never before.
I want to give away what God has entrusted to me—the wisdom, the lessons, the failures, and the victories. I want to help you navigate the same calling that has shaped my life, so you can be faithful in leading the next generation.
Join the Fresh Calling Community
I’d love for you to be part of this journey. Here’s how you can connect:
- Visit the website at freshcalling.org.
- Sign up for coaching and consulting opportunities.
- Subscribe to my blog for up to date thoughts and encouragements.
- Subscribe to the Fresh Calling YouTube channel for practical tips and inspiring content.
- Stay tuned for updates about the Fresh Calling book.
Together, we’ll explore what it means to lead with purpose and to trust God fully in the ministry He’s entrusted to us.
A Final Word of Encouragement
To every youth pastor reading this: You are not alone. The work you’re doing matters deeply. You are planting seeds of faith, hope, and love that will bear fruit for eternity. My prayer for you is that Fresh Calling will be a resource and a refuge as you continue to follow the calling God has placed on your life.
The next chapter is here, and I’m excited to walk alongside you as we lead the next generation together.
Connecting with students on the wall.
I see them every week. Students who come in to the youth room, and just sit (or stand) on the wall immediately hiding behind their screens. Or, they walk in for 2 seconds, scan the room and turn around and walk out! They do not engage. Ever wonder why?
Coming out of a year like no other, many youth pastors face an unexpected challenge: students who are physically present but emotionally and socially distant. Post-COVID, these students often sit along the edges of your youth room, avoiding personal connection and staying glued to their screens. For some, this disengagement is a habit; for others, it’s rooted in something deeper—anxiety.
The Role of Anxiety
Anxiety has become a defining struggle for this generation. The isolation of the pandemic, combined with the pressures of social media and school, has left many students unsure how to engage with others. Walking into a room full of peers can feel overwhelming, and for some, sitting on the wall is their way of coping.
As youth pastors, understanding this dynamic is critical. These students aren’t rejecting community—they’re afraid of it. So, how do we reach them?
1. Create a Safe Space
Anxiety thrives in environments where students feel judged or pressured. Foster a culture of grace and acceptance in your youth group. This could mean setting the tone with leaders who model warmth and understanding or creating intentional moments where students can observe without being forced to participate.
2. Start Small
For anxious students, small steps are huge victories. Instead of inviting them into a large group activity right away, start with one-on-one or small group interactions. For example, invite them to join a game with just a few others or pair them with a trusted peer who can help them feel at ease.
3. Normalize Their Experience
Let students know they’re not alone in their struggles. Share stories of others who’ve dealt with similar challenges, or talk openly about how anxiety impacts relationships. When students feel understood, they’re more likely to take steps toward connection.
4. Use Gentle Encouragement
Instead of calling students out, gently invite them into activities. Phrases like, “Hey, we’d love to have you join us whenever you’re ready,” or “No pressure, but this could be fun if you’re interested,” give them permission to step in at their own pace.
5. Provide Anchors
Anchors are consistent elements that anxious students can rely on. This could be a leader they know will always say hello, a specific activity they enjoy, or even a favorite spot in the room. These small consistencies can help them feel safe enough to engage more deeply over time.
Questions for Reflection:
• Are you providing environments where anxious students feel seen and valued?
• How can you help students take small steps toward deeper relationships?
• In what ways can your leaders support students struggling with anxiety?
When Jesus encountered people on the fringes, He met them with compassion and patience. As youth pastors, we have the same opportunity. By recognizing the impact of anxiety and creating spaces of belonging, we can help students move from the wall to the center of community—and ultimately to the feet of Jesus.
Take heart, youth pastor. Each small step you take toward understanding and connecting with anxious students matters. I know you have these types of students in your group. I’d love hear how you connect these students getting them to engaged in your ministry. Comment below.
3 Commons Mistakes Every Youth Pastor Makes
3 Common Mistakes Youth Pastors Make in Ministry
Youth ministry is rewarding but challenging, and mistakes are part of the journey. Recognizing some common pitfalls can help youth pastors navigate ministry with greater effectiveness and joy. Here are three mistakes I’ve made —and some tips on how to avoid them.
1. Lone Ranger Syndrome
It’s easy to feel like you’re solely responsible for the spiritual growth of your students. This mindset often leads to burnout and isolation. Trying to handle everything—planning events, writing lessons, counseling students, running small groups—without a team is unsustainable.
Ministry isn’t meant to be a solo effort. Ecclesiastes 4:9 reminds us, “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their efforts.” Build a team of committed leaders who share your vision. Equip and empower them to take ownership of key areas of ministry. Not only does this lighten your load, but it also fosters a culture of discipleship and collaboration.
2. Neglect Parent Perspectives
Youth pastors sometimes focus so much on students that they forget the crucial role parents play. Dismissing parents as out of touch or hard to work with is a mistake. Parents are not just part of the audience—they’re partners in ministry.
Parents spend far more time with their teenagers than you do. They shape their child’s values, decisions, and faith long after youth group ends. Partnering with parents by providing resources, regular communication, and encouragement strengthens the spiritual foundation being built at home.
Take time to listen to parents’ concerns and seek their input. Hosting parent meetings or sending out newsletters with ministry updates can go a long way in fostering trust and collaboration. When parents feel included, they’re more likely to support and pray for your ministry.
3. Devalue Relationships
Youth ministry can become consumed with programs, numbers, and events. While those have their place, focusing on them at the expense of relationships misses the heart of the gospel. Students don’t need a flashy show—they need authentic connections with leaders who reflect Christ’s love.
Jesus modeled relational ministry by investing in a small group of disciples, eating with them, listening to their questions, and walking through life with them. Similarly, your students need to know you care about them personally. Attending their sports games, remembering their prayer requests, or simply asking how their week went builds trust and opens the door for meaningful discipleship.
Challenge your team to prioritize relationships over programs. Remember, spiritual growth happens most often in the context of genuine, Christ-centered relationships.
Moving Forward:
Mistakes are inevitable, but they’re also opportunities for growth. Avoiding these common pitfalls will not only make your ministry more effective but also more joyful. By embracing teamwork, partnering with parents, and prioritizing relationships, you’ll create a ministry culture that reflects the heart of Christ and impacts students for eternity.
Nobody’s perfect! Good Lord, I’ve made my fair share of mistakes but how we use them to grow our leadership and ministry is crucial. Let’s talk about it. Schedule a 1on1 coaching session we me today.
Pitfalls that can ruin your ministry!
3 Pitfalls I’ve Seen Youth Pastors Fall Into. And How You Can Avoid Them.
Ministry is tough—especially youth ministry. We’re constantly balancing a million things, pouring into students, leading events, and staying on top of all the behind-the-scenes work. But with all these pressures, there are a few common pitfalls I’ve seen wreck youth pastors’ ministries. The sad part is, most of these traps could have been avoided if we had just taken a step back and thought ahead. Let me walk you through three of the biggest mistakes I’ve seen—and more importantly, how you can avoid them.
1. Inappropriate Relationships: Keeping Things Above Reproach
I’ve seen this one happen way too often, and it’s always heartbreaking. It starts small—maybe you’re just spending extra time with a student who’s going through a tough time, or you get a bit too close to a volunteer—and before you know it, lines get blurred. Whether it’s emotional boundaries or something more serious, inappropriate relationships can destroy trust, cause major damage to your reputation, and even shut down your ministry.
How to Avoid It:
- Set boundaries early: This is the most important part. From day one, make sure you’re clear about what’s okay and what’s not when it comes to relationships with students and volunteers. Keep communication open but respectful—texting every day about personal stuff is a red flag.
- Find accountability: Have someone you trust who can ask you tough questions about your interactions. Maybe it’s a fellow pastor, a mentor, or a trusted leader in your church. Don’t try to do this alone—accountability is key.
- Avoid one-on-one situations: It sounds simple, but it’s so easy to forget. Don’t spend time alone with students, especially behind closed doors. It’s just not worth the risk, no matter how innocent it feels.
2. Loss of Integrity: When Your Words Don’t Line Up with Your Actions
We’ve all been there. You’re preaching the truth on a Sunday, but then you head home and act in ways that don’t line up with what you just said. It could be gossiping, slacking off, or letting little things slide that you know are wrong. But here’s the thing—students see right through that. If your actions don’t back up what you teach, it’s a quick road to losing respect and trust.
How to Avoid It:
- Practice what you preach: If you’re teaching about honesty, generosity, or purity, make sure you’re living it out. It’s as simple as that. People watch you—especially the teens in your ministry. Lead by example, even in the small, everyday stuff.
- Own your mistakes: None of us are perfect. If you slip up, be honest about it. Apologize to those you may have hurt and show that you’re committed to doing better. This not only helps rebuild trust but shows students that we all need grace.
- Create personal standards: Make sure you have clear convictions that guide your actions. These should be non-negotiable. Whether it’s how you spend your time, how you speak to others, or how you lead your family—stay consistent in your integrity.
3. Laziness: Losing the Fire and Falling into complacency
Let’s be real—sometimes ministry just feels like a grind. You’ve got event after event, constant planning, and you’re always putting out fires. It’s easy to slip into autopilot mode and just do the bare minimum to get through the day. But here’s the thing: laziness doesn’t just mean you’re not doing enough. It means you’re losing sight of the bigger picture. If you’re not careful, you’ll burn out, and your ministry will start to feel like a job instead of a calling.
How to Avoid It:
- Remember your “why”: Stay connected to the reason you’re doing this. Remind yourself that you’re investing in the next generation, helping them grow in their faith, and pointing them toward Jesus. That’s what keeps the fire burning when things get tough.
- Create a routine: Don’t just let the day happen to you. Plan ahead. Set aside time for personal prayer, study, and family connection. When you’re structured, you’ll find it easier to stay focused and energized.
- Never stop learning: Don’t fall into the trap of thinking you’ve got it all figured out. Stay hungry to learn—whether it’s through books, conferences, or talking to other youth pastors. The more you invest in growing yourself, the more your ministry will thrive.
Wrapping It Up:
Ministry is hard, no doubt about it. But we’ve got to be aware of these traps—unhealthy relationships, losing our integrity, and laziness—because they’ll mess things up quicker than we can imagine. The key is to stay connected to the calling, stay accountable, and keep growing both personally and professionally. It’s not always easy, but if we keep our eyes on Jesus and stay faithful to what He’s called us to, we’ll avoid these pitfalls and make a lasting impact in the lives of our students.
There are way more ways to ruin your ministry. These are just three quick ideas I had. Let’s have an honest conversation soon. Sign up for a 1on1 coaching sessions and let’s brainstorm have you can avoid some of these pitfalls.
Student-Led Ministry: Here are 5 reasons why you should give away the ministry to them!
Last night was our annual Christmas Party. Typically this night is pretty scripted and executed by our staff. But not last night! Oh we planned some things, but it was a “student-led night”, and it was chaotically fantastic! Students help decorate, serve food, M.C.’d the night, ran sound and cleaned up. The crowd of huge and boisterous. At about halfway through the night, I gave up the reins and quit trying to control it. I just sat down at one of the tables in the room and watched everything happen.
In youth ministry, it’s tempting to feel like we must have our hands on everything: planning events, leading small groups, preaching every message, and organizing every outreach. But what if the greatest impact we could have comes not from doing everything ourselves, but from empowering students to lead?
When we give the ministry away and invest in student-led ministry, we aren’t abdicating responsibility—we’re multiplying the work of the gospel. Here are five reasons why youth pastors and leaders should prioritize student-led ministry in their churches.
1. It Develops Ownership.
When students take an active role in ministry, they shift from being consumers to contributors. Leading worship, teaching a devotion, organizing a service project—these opportunities challenge students to apply their faith in real ways.
Ownership is key to long-term faith. If students never practice leadership in their formative years, they’ll graduate from youth group without understanding how to integrate their faith into everyday life. But when we invite them to lead, they experience firsthand how God can use them for His purposes.
Think about Paul’s encouragement to Timothy: “Don’t let anyone despise your youth, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12, CSB).
Student-led ministry is about giving teenagers the space to live this out.
2. It Multiplies Ministry.
Even with the best team of adult volunteers, there’s a limit to what youth pastors can do alone. But when students are empowered to lead, the reach of your ministry multiplies exponentially.
Imagine the impact if every student became a leader in their own right—mentoring their peers, sharing the gospel in their schools, and inviting friends to church events. You don’t just have a ministry to students; you have a ministry through students.
This multiplication aligns with Jesus’ ministry model. He spent time equipping His disciples and then sent them out to do the work (Luke 9:1-6). When we give the ministry away, we follow His example of raising up leaders who carry the mission forward.
3. It Builds Confidence in Spiritual Gifts
Many students don’t realize they have spiritual gifts, let alone how to use them. Student-led ministry provides a safe space for them to discover and develop these gifts, whether it’s teaching, serving, encouraging, or leading worship.
When a student stands up to share a testimony or leads their first prayer, it might be awkward at first. But over time, they’ll grow in confidence, realizing that God has uniquely equipped them to serve His kingdom.
As leaders, our role is to identify and affirm these gifts. Like Barnabas encouraged Paul early in his ministry, we can say to our students, “I see God working through you. Keep going.”
4. It Creates a Culture of Peer Discipleship
Teenagers listen to other teenagers. (This is SO true!) While your voice as a youth pastor is important, there’s something powerful about a student hearing truth from a peer. Whenever a guest comes for the first time to our ministry, we have one of our student leaders text them later that day or the next to say thanks for coming.
Student-led ministry fosters a culture of peer discipleship, where students encourage and hold each other accountable. Whether it’s a small group leader walking through Scripture with a friend or a student worship leader inviting others into God’s presence, these moments create deeper connections and spiritual growth. We often have students teach the lesson in our Sunday morning Life Groups and every spring I give up the pulpit during our midweek gathering for students to preach.
Jesus’ Great Commission calls all believers to make disciples (Matthew 28:19-20). By equipping students to disciple their peers, we prepare them to fulfill this mission both now and in the future.
5. It Prepares Students for Lifelong Ministry
Ministry isn’t something reserved for pastors; it’s a calling for every believer. Yet, many students graduate from youth ministry without knowing how to live this out in adulthood.
By giving students leadership roles, we prepare them for a lifetime of serving the church. A student who leads a small group today might be a Sunday school teacher tomorrow. A teenager who organizes a local outreach could someday lead a missions team.
When we invest in student leaders, we’re building the future of the church. As Proverbs 22:6 reminds us, “Start a youth out on his way; even when he grows old, he will not depart from it” (CSB).
Practical Steps to Implement Student-Led Ministry
Giving the ministry away can feel overwhelming if you don’t know where to start. Here are a few ideas:
• Start small: Invite a student to co-lead a small group or share a testimony during youth group.
• Provide training: Offer leadership training moments or one-on-one mentoring to equip students with the skills they need. We send students to SLU (Student Leadership University) every summer and we recruit 25-30 students to be on our SLT (Student Leadership Team) every year.
• Give ownership: Let students plan and lead parts of your weekly program or organize an outreach event. You have to let go of control, even if it’s messy and not the way you would do it.
• Celebrate their efforts: Encourage students publicly when they step out in faith, even if they make mistakes.
As youth pastors, our goal isn’t to create a ministry that depends on us—it’s to develop disciples who depend on Jesus. Giving the ministry away isn’t easy, but it’s worth it.
When we empower students to lead, we help them grow into the people God has called them to be. And in the process, we watch as God uses their gifts to reach their peers and beyond.
It’s not about us. It’s about equipping the next generation to lead the church forward. Let’s give the ministry away—and watch what God will do. I would love to talk about how you can foster more student leadership in your ministry context. Schedule a 1on1 coaching session today.
Two Feet on the Floor: The Moment When Your Day Begins
My alarm goes off sometime between 5:00 and 5:30 AM. The house is still, the world outside feels quiet, and for a brief moment, I consider staying under the covers. But then I remember: this is when it all starts. My mornings aren’t just the beginning of the day—they’re the foundation.
I’ve learned that how I use these early hours impacts everything else. It affects how I lead in ministry, how I show up for my family, and, most importantly, how I connect with God. So, when my two feet hit the floor, it’s go time.
Here’s how my morning routine helps me stay grounded, connected, and ready to take on the day.
Step 1: Breakfast and Connection
The first thing I do is head to the kitchen to make breakfast. It’s not just about food—it’s about setting the tone for my family before the day pulls us in different directions. My youngest daughter heads off to school early, so I try to make sure she starts her day with something warm and filling.
After breakfast is ready, my wife and I sit down together. This has become one of my favorite parts of the day. In the middle of the morning rush, we create a small pocket of stillness. We connect over coffee, talk about what’s ahead, and take time to pray together.
I’ve realized how easy it is to let the busyness of life crowd out moments like these. But these shared mornings remind us that we’re in this together—not just as parents, but as partners who are anchoring our family in God’s presence.
Step 2: Time with God
After my daughter is off to school and breakfast is done, it’s my time. I make my coffee, grab my Bible, and settle in for about an hour of focused time with God.
I use the One Year Bible for my daily reading. There’s something powerful about walking through Scripture in a structured way—it keeps me grounded in the Word and reminds me of the bigger story I’m part of. Some days, a verse will jump out and speak directly to what I’m walking through. Other days, it’s the simple rhythm of showing up that keeps me connected.
Prayer journaling has also become a key part of my mornings. Writing out my prayers helps me slow down and be honest with God. I’ll lift up specific concerns for my ministry, pray over my family, and seek guidance for decisions I’m facing. It’s also a chance to reflect on the ways God has answered prayers I’ve written before.
This hour isn’t rushed or hurried—it’s sacred. It’s where I recalibrate my heart and remember who I’m serving before I step into the demands of the day.
Step 3: Getting Ready and Planning the Day
Once my time with God is done, I get dressed and review my calendar. This is my moment to shift gears and prepare for what’s ahead.
I glance at my schedule and prioritize the key tasks or meetings that need my attention. Ministry can be unpredictable, so having a clear plan helps me stay focused on what matters most. It’s not just about checking boxes—it’s about making sure I’m stewarding my time well.
From there, I head to the church office, ready to take on whatever the day holds.
Why This Routine Matters
For years, my mornings were chaotic and reactive. I’d hit snooze, rush through breakfast (if I ate at all), and scramble into the day feeling unprepared. But over time, I realized that how I started my morning set the tone for everything else.
Now, my routine gives me a sense of purpose and clarity. Making breakfast isn’t just a chore—it’s a chance to serve my family. Praying with my wife isn’t just a habit—it’s a way to strengthen our relationship and invite God into our day. Spending time in Scripture and prayer isn’t just a checkbox—it’s the foundation of my calling.
For youth pastors, mornings are a gift. They’re a chance to meet with God before meeting with students, to invest in your family before investing in your ministry, and to prepare your heart before the demands of the day come knocking.
So, tomorrow morning, when your alarm goes off, resist the temptation to hit snooze. Swing your feet onto the floor and start with intention. Whether that looks like making breakfast, diving into Scripture, or taking a moment to pray, know that these small choices can have a big impact—not just on your day, but on your life and ministry.
Trust me: when you start your mornings with purpose, you’ll be amazed at how much better you’re able to pour into the people God has called you to serve.
Let’s talk about your morning routine and how we can get your day started off right… schedule a 1on1 coaching session.
Leading with a Clear Conscience
Leading with a Clear Conscience: Recognizing the Enemy’s Influence in Ministry
As youth pastors, we know there’s more going on than meets the eye. Our ministries aren’t just about planning events or leading small groups—they’re about fighting for the hearts of students in a world filled with darkness. And if we’re honest, sometimes the evil one has more influence over us than we’d like to admit. But with a few intentional steps, we can guard ourselves, stay alert, and lead with a clear conscience. There have been several books I’ve read through the years that have shaped what I think about how I lead with a clear conscience and I’d like to pull some ideas together here to help all of us to deal with the enemy’s influence.
First, we have to recognize the battle we’re in. The Christian in Complete Armor by William Gurnall paints a vivid picture of the spiritual fight we’re facing. It’s easy to think that spiritual warfare only happens in “big” moments, but the truth is, it’s in the everyday moments too—the frustration, the discouragement, the doubts that creep in. Each day, it’s helpful to take inventory by asking ourselves where we felt pushed off course. Was it a moment of anger? A lack of patience? This simple reflection can reveal where the enemy may be influencing our thoughts or emotions. Prayer for discernment is also essential here; we can ask God to open our eyes to areas where we’re under attack. And we don’t have to face these struggles alone. Sharing what we’re going through with trusted accountability partners can make all the difference. Darkness thrives in secrecy, and bringing it to light diminishes its power.
Guarding our hearts and minds is also crucial. In Reclaiming Surrendered Ground, (which I’m re-reading right now!) Jim Logan talks about the danger of allowing negative influences into our lives, sometimes in ways that seem innocent or even “necessary” in ministry. Maybe it’s watching a certain show or hanging out with someone we know isn’t spiritually encouraging. Whatever it is, these influences build up over time and give the enemy ground in our lives. To start, think of one area where you’ve compromised. It might be letting bitterness or comparison grow or spending a little too much time scrolling on social media. Name it. Then set a boundary. Limit social media time or try starting your day with Scripture instead of emails. Each boundary pushes the enemy out of that surrendered ground. Setting aside time once a month for a “spiritual check-in” also helps. Take stock of where you’ve given up ground and ask if there’s anything you need to reclaim to stay focused on Jesus.
Living free in Christ’s authority is another game-changer. Neil Anderson’s Living Free in Christ teaches that we’re not meant to lead in fear or insecurity. But so often, we let lies dictate our actions, fearing we’re “not enough” or bound to mess up. This authority in Christ isn’t just a theological point—it’s a daily practice. We’re called to live free in His power, not shackled by doubt. Speak truth to yourself daily. Find one scripture that reminds you of your authority in Christ—2 Corinthians 10:4-5 is a great one. Repeat it every morning and whenever doubt or fear tries to creep in. If there’s a specific lie the enemy uses against you, write it down, confront it with truth, and renounce it in Jesus’ name. For example, if the lie is “I’m not qualified for this,” counter it with “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). Rather than pretending to be strong, invite Jesus into your weaknesses. When you feel fear, pause, ask Jesus to fill that space, and step forward with courage.
Leading with integrity is a powerful way to keep a clear conscience. The people we lead can sense if we’re living authentically or just going through the motions. Integrity isn’t about perfection; it’s about a commitment to keep short accounts with God and others. Make it a habit to confess and turn from sin daily. Whether it’s pride, laziness, or anger, don’t let it linger—bring it to God. Humbling ourselves to ask for feedback from trusted friends or leaders also builds integrity. Asking, “How can I lead with more integrity?” might sting, but their insights will sharpen us. And whenever we make a mistake, especially with students, owning it immediately shows humility. Apologizing if we snap or act out of character is humbling, but it models authentic faith and gives students permission to do the same.
Being a youth pastor is tough work. The world feels heavier, students face bigger battles, and the pressure to “do it all” can be intense. But God has equipped you for this, and He’s given you His strength and authority. The more you’re aware of the enemy’s tactics, the more you can guard your heart and lead with freedom and integrity.
Praying through the armor of God in Ephesians 6 each morning helps, too. Imagine yourself putting on each piece of God’s armor, starting with the belt of truth and ending with the sword of the Spirit. As you do, ask God to protect you and give you strength for the day’s battles. And don’t forget the power of accountability; find someone you trust to check in with weekly. Share your struggles, your victories, and anything that might have pulled you off course.
Leading with a clear conscience isn’t about having all the answers; it’s about leaning on the One who does. The enemy wants to wear you down, but with Christ’s strength, you can stand firm. Remember, this isn’t just for you—it’s for every student who’s looking up to you. When you guard your heart and live authentically, you give them a glimpse of Jesus’ power and love. Lead with courage; you’re not alone in the fight.
Comment below your thoughts about how the enemy gains influence in the life of a youth pastor. I would love to help you process where the evil one has influence in your life. Schedule a 1on1 coaching session and let’s begin the road to freedom.
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