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Write It Out

by Steve Spence

This is part two in a three part series in dealing with the personal devotional life of the youth pastor.

Journaling has become one of the most grounding parts of my quiet time with the Lord. It didn’t start that way. In fact, for a long time I resisted it. I didn’t want to feel like I was keeping a diary or trying to write something that sounded “spiritual.” But over time, I realized that journaling isn’t about creating a record for others to read—it’s about creating space for God to speak and for me to process what He’s already doing in my heart.

Most of us in ministry spend a lot of time talking—teaching, counseling, leading meetings, or planning events. We’re used to putting words out into the world. But writing things down is different. It slows you down. It forces you to think, to reflect, to actually notice what’s happening beneath the surface. That’s where journaling has become such a valuable rhythm for me. It gives shape to the quiet moments with God that I might otherwise rush through or forget.

When I sit down in the morning with my coffee and Bible, I open my journal right beside it. I don’t worry about having perfect handwriting or polished thoughts. I simply start writing what’s on my heart—sometimes it’s a prayer, sometimes it’s a reflection from what I just read, and sometimes it’s just a list of what’s weighing on me that day. There’s something freeing about putting thoughts on paper. It helps me see what’s been lingering in the background of my mind, especially the emotions and questions I might not have noticed in the busyness of ministry.

Here’s what I’ve learned: journaling doesn’t have to be formal. You don’t need a structure or a clever system. You don’t even have to write in full sentences. Some days I jot down a few bullet points or short prayers. Other days I fill pages. What matters isn’t how it looks—it’s that you’re honest. Think of it as writing to God. You’re letting Him into your thought process, not cleaning it up for presentation.

Another thing I’d say is—get a good journal. Not a yellow legal pad. Something that feels personal and lasting. There’s something about the physical act of opening a journal, seeing where you’ve been, and noticing what God’s been teaching you over time. I can flip back through mine and see answered prayers, recurring themes, or even seasons where I was struggling more than I realized. That perspective helps me stay grounded and grateful.

Journaling has also become one of the healthiest ways I process what I experience in ministry. When you carry the weight of people’s stories, disappointments, or even your own discouragement, those things need a place to go. Writing them out before the Lord helps me surrender them instead of carrying them silently. It’s like exhaling the things that have built up inside and making room for His peace to fill that space.

If you’re hesitant to start, just begin small. A few lines each morning or at the end of the day. Write about what made you thankful, what made you anxious, or what you sensed God saying. Over time, you’ll find your rhythm.

For me, journaling has become more than a habit—it’s a form of prayer. It’s where I talk honestly with God and where He often reminds me of who He is and what He’s doing. So grab a journal, open it up, and write it out. You might be surprised at how much healing and clarity flows from putting pen to paper in the presence of the Lord.


I’d love to hear how journaling has shaped your walk with God or helped you process ministry life. What rhythms or practices have been meaningful for you lately? Comment below or connect with me through freshcalling.org—I always enjoy hearing from other leaders walking this same road. Let’s keep growing and learning together.

Ministering Through a Tough Season

by Steve Spence

Every pastor faces seasons that feel heavy—when the excitement has faded, energy is low, and ministry feels more like endurance than joy. Sometimes it’s because of disappointment, conflict, burnout, or simply the weight of unmet expectations. Ministry doesn’t always go the way we hoped or prayed it would, and when things get tough, it’s easy to wonder if we’re doing something wrong or if we’re even making a difference.

Psalm 42:11 (CSB) says, “Why, my soul, are you so dejected? Why are you in such turmoil? Put your hope in God, for I will still praise him, my Savior and my God.”
Even the psalmist felt the weight of discouragement but refused to let it define his faith. Seasons of struggle are not signs of failure—they are invitations to press deeper into dependence on God.

When I find myself walking through a tough season, I’ve learned a few simple but necessary steps that help me stay grounded:

First, I spend intentional time with the Lord to keep my emotions in check. When my heart feels restless, I don’t rush past it—I bring it to Him. Prayer in those moments becomes less about fixing the situation and more about letting God realign my heart with His peace.

Second, I seek an outside perspective. Sometimes it takes another set of eyes to help you see clearly when the fog of ministry sets in. Proverbs 19:20 says, “Listen to counsel and receive instruction so that you may be wise later in life.”Wise counsel brings clarity and stability when emotions try to take over.

Finally, I do what I can to stop writing stories in my head about the situation. It’s easy to assume motives, fill in blanks, and create narratives that may not be true. The enemy loves to amplify those lies in seasons of weakness. Romans 12:18reminds us, “If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Sometimes that means choosing grace over assumptions and peace over reaction.

But here’s what I’ve had to learn the hard way: a tough season doesn’t mean you’re done. Most of us don’t respond well to hard things—especially in ministry. When the pressure builds and the results don’t show, discouragement can quietly grow into depression, anxiety, or a paralyzing fear of failure. Those moments can feel like pits that swallow your joy and passion. That’s why awareness matters. If you sense that happening, it’s okay to slow down, talk to someone, or take a break. You’re not weak for needing rest—you’re wise for recognizing it. God still has purpose for you, even in the hard places.

Every pastor will face tough seasons—it’s part of leading and loving people in a broken world. But those seasons don’t define your calling; they refine it. They strip away self-reliance and remind us that ministry has always been about Him, not us.

When ministry feels heavy, remember—your worth isn’t tied to outcomes, attendance, or approval. It’s anchored in the One who called you and promised to finish the work He began in you.

If you’re walking through a tough season and need someone to talk with about it, I’d love to connect. Click the link to set up a one-on-one coaching session. Sometimes all it takes is a conversation to help you find clarity, perspective, and hope again.

Integrity Before Influence

Why the private life of a youth pastor matters more than the platform

I’ve learned something over the years in student ministry: students pay close attention to who we are, not just what we say. They may forget a talk, but they won’t forget a life that models the gospel. That truth weighs on me every time I step into a room with teenagers.

I’m not called to impress students or parents. I’m called to live under the gaze of Christ. James 3:1 reminds us, “Not many should become teachers, my brothers, because you know that we will receive a stricter judgment” (CSB). That’s not meant to paralyze me with fear but to keep me mindful of the seriousness of this role.

There are subtle ways compromise creeps in—what we consume online, how we speak in private, where our thoughts drift when nobody’s looking. I’ve seen those cracks form in my own life, and I don’t want to ignore them.

Questions I keep asking myself:
– Does my private life line up with my public ministry?
– Am I guarding my eyes, words, and time with the same diligence I use to prepare a sermon?
– When I’m stressed, do I go to Christ or to distraction?
– Would the people closest to me describe me as the same person in every setting?

These questions aren’t comfortable, but they draw me back to daily disciplines: Scripture, prayer, confession, and honest accountability. Not to earn approval, but because integrity is part of worship.

Youth ministry is more than managing programs or preaching talks; it’s about shepherding souls, starting with our own. I don’t want my life to undercut my message. I want it to reinforce it.

Today, I’m asking God again to form holiness in me. Will you join me? Let’s commit to daily habits of grace, seek accountability, and walk with nothing hidden. Our students need leaders they can trust, and our Lord deserves leaders who walk with Him.

If you’re a youth pastor who feels the weight of this and would like someone to walk alongside you, I offer one-on-one coaching for leaders just like you. Click here to set up a 1-on-1 coaching session with me. The first session is free!

The Quiet Drift Toward Selfish Ambition

I didn’t notice it at first. It started small—snapping a quick photo of an event for the ministry page, posting a recap video after camp. No big deal, right? But then I caught myself thinking about how many likes it got. I wondered if other youth pastors would notice. Before long, the win wasn’t just about students meeting Jesus. It was about the post that followed.

Ezekiel 34 hit me in the gut the first time I read it with fresh eyes this week:
“Woe to the shepherds of Israel who have been feeding themselves! Shouldn’t the shepherds feed their flock?”

God wasn’t vague. He didn’t say, “Hey guys, just remember to balance self-care with shepherding.” No. He said woe—a word that signals serious trouble. Why? Because the people He loved were starving, and the leaders were full.

Here’s the uncomfortable truth: selfish ambition in ministry doesn’t usually announce itself. It creeps in. We tell ourselves it’s about reaching more people, building influence, “expanding the Kingdom.” But underneath, there’s a part of us that wants validation, applause, maybe even envy.

And social media? It pours gas on that fire. You start measuring success by engagement instead of transformation. You feel pressure to make everything “Instagrammable,” even sacred moments that should never be staged. Slowly, the flock becomes a backdrop for our personal brand.

God’s heart for shepherds hasn’t changed. He still expects us to feed His sheep, to know their names, to sit with them in their mess. Students don’t need a celebrity; they need a shepherd who will show up when no one is watching.

If I’m honest, this isn’t just theory for me. I’ve had to ask myself hard questions:

  • Would I still lead with the same passion if nobody ever saw it?
  • Am I preparing messages for likes—or because students desperately need truth?
  • If my platform disappeared tomorrow, would my ministry collapse?

Here’s what I know: God can raise up another shepherd in a heartbeat. I don’t want Him to look at me and say, “You were too busy feeding yourself.” I want to be found faithful, even in the hidden places.

If this stirs something in you, don’t ignore it. I’ve been there. I know how hard it is to lead with pure motives in a world that rewards performance. If you need someone to process this with, I’d love to help. Let’s set up a coaching session and work through it together.

A Day in the Life of a Youth Pastor

Do you have students come up to you occasionally and ask… “What do you do?’ Oh the mystery of the Monday through Friday pastor. I guess they think we don’t do anything but sit around and wait for them to come back to church. You and I both know there are a lot of things we do though out the week. Planning. Meeting with Pastor. Guest follow up. Room clean up and set up. And so much more.

So in a response to some of the preconceived ideas many of them have, I made a instragram reel of a typical day of a youth pastor. It was a fun exercise and enlightening to those who watched it.

Click on the image to watch a day in the life of Steve.

Here is the fun moment… I shot the video, but one of our students edited it and formatted it for me.

What do you do during the week? What does your follow up and preparation look like? Are you spending time with your wife and kids too? Leave a comment or book a coaching session with Steve to take a deep dive in the behind the scenes look at what a youth pastor does any given day.